I was lying on my bed last Sunday afternoon with my girl, relaxing after a nice big breakfast and my second cup of coffee of the day. She asked about some of the books on my bookshelf, in particular, one or two of the men’s movement books I have. These are books like Iron John, Fire In The Belly, The Flying Boy, and King, Warrior, Magician, Lover.
I told her that I was doing research about what has come before, and then I realized… there is a new men’s movement on the way. It has already started to some degree, but it is small. Men are learning how to have quality interactions with women, and learning what it means to be a man in the face of a woman. Men are dropping what we have taught matters, and learning what really works, and what people really respond to. It is fascinating, and it is inspiring.
I also think it will work.
I think that this movement is going to reach men, and there will be a shift in our culture for the better. Men will know that it is OK to really examine what it means to be a man (and NOT just making good money at a good job to buy a good house). Men will start to get in touch with their backbones, with their hearts, and with their balls.
I used to be really bothered with the state of the world. I used to think there were a lot of problems that needed to be fixed, from global warming and hunger to the prevalence of bad pop boy bands. I eventually threw up my hands, because I felt I had no way to address these issues.
I think the world can be made a better place though. From the bottom up. This means changing the world, one person’s life at a time. I can improve the world by reaching men, and teaching and inspiring them to become better, more attractive versions of themselves. Ultimately, this leads to happier men AND women.
The prospect of a world filled with happy people is a very good one indeed.
How do you build an emotional connection and increase intimacy with a woman? Conventional wisdom would probably say, “open up and share stuff about yourself”. Maybe you would here something like, “show how much you care”. Maybe you could “show that you appreciate her”.
It is pretty clear that Britney Spears is unhappy. Her recent haircut extravaganza is a nice indication of this. A lot of people are unhappy in this world. Now, I don’t know the trials of the superstars, and I am sure that they have a whole slew of unseen pressures and responsibilities. I think that for most people though, happiness, or a lack thereof, can be tracked back to health, wealth, or relationships.
A fun way to approach and/or banter is to make a woman or group of women your bodyguard(s).
A Valentine’s Day nuts and bolts special. How to smack a woman’s @ss.
My second nuts and bolts post is about one of my favorite banter themes. Breaking up.
Time to get back to basics. This is nuts and bolts week. Here’s my most often used opener: