The trick to understanding style is to understand that style is ultimately a way to communicate with other people.
This post wraps up style week on my blog, and you probably noticed that each of my posts emphasized the communication that happens with style in some way. In case you missed the earlier posts, check them out!
- Monday: Style Is Your First Impression
- Tuesday: Style Lessons From A Slayer Concert
- Wednesday: Accessorize Yourself
- Thursday: How To Dress On A Date
- Friday: What Drink Makes You More Intriguing
I’m gonna wrap up this week’s posts by revisiting the ways that style communicates with others, and then I’m gonna make a good old fashioned sales pitch for the DVD set that I learned a ton about style from.
Communicates how you behave
Style can say how wild you are, how conservative you are, how much you like to go out and be social, or how much you like to stay home.
More comfortable clothes may show others that you are interested in relaxing at home, and you’re not necessarily out to be seen by folks around town.
Flashy clothes can show others that you like to engage people. Do your shirts have stuff written on them? Funny lines, etc? A person wearing a shirt like that probably wants people to talk to them. It is practically an invitation for people to engage you about that.
Clothing also communicates stuff as simple as being a motor cycle rider, that you are active, or not very active (are you wearing athletic shoes? Or flip flops?)
Wearing a big pink boa out to a club is gonna communicate that you have fun, and want people to notice you. Probably shows that you are out to party and have a good time.
This just scratches the surface, but a lot of how someone behaves can be determined by those clothing choices.
Style Communicates what is important to you
Clothing and style communicates how important clothes are to you (duh), but this indicates something even deeper, which is how important your appearance is. Is it more important that you look nice, or that you look comfortable? Is it more important to look stylish, with the latest fashions, or more important to not spend too much money on clothes?
Is social status important to you? Not important to you? Style can tell people about this by how purposefully you wear clothes that are expensive, or purposefully inexpensive.
Do you value people that dress well them self? How important is that to you? A man that is dressed in very nice designer clothes may be communicating that he is interested in women that dress up quite nice them self, rather than some artsy, hippie woman, for instance.
Same guy wearing nice jeans, shoes and glasses, but with an old, beat up t-shirt may communicate that even though he may dress nice, what other people wear isn’t as important to him.
Style Communicates how you feel about yourself
Do you like to stand out? Fit in?
Are you feeling like wearing all black? Bright colors? I have it on good authority that women know that the clothing they wear communicates how they feel, and they will choose clothing that reflects that feeling. Men do the same, though much less consciously, and not to the same degree.
Clothes can communicate how upbeat someone is feeling, or how solemn they may be. Are you feeling tough? Aggressive? Nice? Friendly? Different styles will communicate these different moods.
You can let people know what to expect from you, and how you are feeling from the clothes you choose and how you choose to wear them. Even a popped collar vs. non-popped collar signifies something about the way someone is feeling.
Style Communicates the type of women you date
Maybe this is the big one. Maybe not.
Clothing and style tell a woman the kind of women that you date.
Most importantly, you can communicate with a woman, with your choice of clothes and style, if you date women like her. A woman that is a lawyer, for instance, is going to know that a man dressed in over sized hip hop style clothes probably doesn’t date women like her. An extreme example, I know, but it demonstrates the point.
A woman will be asking herself if you are the kind of man that dates women like her, and you can demonstrate either that you are, or that you aren’t, by those style choices.
Style is Communicated to You on DVD
If you want to communicate with women on their level, and you want to better understand how to communicate the type of man you are with style, get Dress For Success.
It is Lance Mason’s Study at home DVD program that goes in depth into all of the aspects of style that I have touched on this week.
It comes with a money back guarantee, you have nothing to lose by trying it out. If it doesn’t work out, no problem, you lose nothing. If it does work, and you learn something useful that helps you get a great woman.
Now go meet a woman this nice Labor Day weekend. Talk to you on Tuesday.