The Third episode of The Pickup Artist was on a couple nights ago. They had to learn and apply stories and threads with DHV spikes in them. A DHV is a “Demonstration of High Value”, or some such thing. I personally never think about that or try to incorporate that idea into my shtick, but then again, I don’t do pretty much anything from Mystery’s method. The show still entertains though. I loved that they made the guys talk to the little girls to practice storytelling. That seemed like a fun exercise. This episode pointed something out to me though, which is the art of storytelling.
I’m not a great storyteller. As far as the basic “pickup” skills go, that is the one I am least skilled in. I can do it, and I have, but I never really on it or fall back on it. I tend to tell more stories to build rapport and connection with a person, by telling them about my life. Storytelling used to be a part of the Art of Attraction workshop, but we have slowly removed it to replace it with banter, which we have found is both more effective and easier to learn.
A great story can be really captivating. It can keep people entertained, it can draw people to you magnetically, and it can convey lots of great things about you. Storytelling is a skill that I would like to develop. Not really as an attraction tool, but as a life tool. I have a couple ventures under my belt to help develop this.
Now on to a couple comments about some of the guys.
I commented on this guy the last time. What frustrates me about this guy is his inability to change and his inability to learn. He has a great opportunity to learn this material and apply it, and he just doesn’t.
I contrast this with some other older men that I have worked for. I remember one guy in particular. He was in his 40s, tall and decent looking, big presence, but lacked the confidence to meet women. This guy wanted to change, and was willing to do the work. It was hard for him. He was shaking and sweating from nervousness at times, but he never gave up, and he tried everything we taught him. I admire that.
I have no idea what it is like to be 45 years old. I have a couple friends around that age, and I know that things are different. Learning how to be a more attractive man is different, life in general is different. I don’t understand it, because I have never been there, and I won’t for another 15 or so years.
I do know that anyone can make the changes, at any age. The question is, “are you going to let yourself get in the way or not?”
Fred let himself get in the way. I have met plenty of guys that don’t though, and I respect those men for that.
Right now, I admire Scott the most. He is geeky. He is tall and lanky. He has a goofy smile. I would get a long with this guy. Also, he is working his ass off. He is really putting in a lot of effort to learn the material that Mystery is teaching them. He has an opportunity to flip his life around, and really make changes to his social life that he wants, and he is jumping at the opportunity. I hope that he stays on the show for a while.
To me, Scott represents the fact that anybody can get better with women if they put in some effort and are willing to make some changes to their behavior. More importantly, Scott represents the facts that geeks and dorks can do this.