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Communication is the Key To Style

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The trick to understanding style is to understand that style is ultimately a way to communicate with other people.

This post wraps up style week on my blog, and you probably noticed that each of my posts emphasized the communication that happens with style in some way. In case you missed the earlier posts, check them out!

I’m gonna wrap up this week’s posts by revisiting the ways that style communicates with others, and then I’m gonna make a good old fashioned sales pitch for the DVD set that I learned a ton about style from.

Communicates how you behave

Style can say how wild you are, how conservative you are, how much you like to go out and be social, or how much you like to stay home.

More comfortable clothes may show others that you are interested in relaxing at home, and you’re not necessarily out to be seen by folks around town.

Flashy clothes can show others that you like to engage people. Do your shirts have stuff written on them? Funny lines, etc? A person wearing a shirt like that probably wants people to talk to them. It is practically an invitation for people to engage you about that.

Clothing also communicates stuff as simple as being a motor cycle rider, that you are active, or not very active (are you wearing athletic shoes? Or flip flops?)

Wearing a big pink boa out to a club is gonna communicate that you have fun, and want people to notice you. Probably shows that you are out to party and have a good time.

This just scratches the surface, but a lot of how someone behaves can be determined by those clothing choices.

Style Communicates what is important to you

Clothing and style communicates how important clothes are to you (duh), but this indicates something even deeper, which is how important your appearance is. Is it more important that you look nice, or that you look comfortable? Is it more important to look stylish, with the latest fashions, or more important to not spend too much money on clothes?

Is social status important to you? Not important to you? Style can tell people about this by how purposefully you wear clothes that are expensive, or purposefully inexpensive.

Do you value people that dress well them self? How important is that to you? A man that is dressed in very nice designer clothes may be communicating that he is interested in women that dress up quite nice them self, rather than some artsy, hippie woman, for instance.

Same guy wearing nice jeans, shoes and glasses, but with an old, beat up t-shirt may communicate that even though he may dress nice, what other people wear isn’t as important to him.

Style Communicates how you feel about yourself

Do you like to stand out? Fit in?

Are you feeling like wearing all black? Bright colors? I have it on good authority that women know that the clothing they wear communicates how they feel, and they will choose clothing that reflects that feeling. Men do the same, though much less consciously, and not to the same degree.

Clothes can communicate how upbeat someone is feeling, or how solemn they may be. Are you feeling tough? Aggressive? Nice? Friendly? Different styles will communicate these different moods.

You can let people know what to expect from you, and how you are feeling from the clothes you choose and how you choose to wear them. Even a popped collar vs. non-popped collar signifies something about the way someone is feeling.

Style Communicates the type of women you date

Maybe this is the big one. Maybe not.

Clothing and style tell a woman the kind of women that you date.

Most importantly, you can communicate with a woman, with your choice of clothes and style, if you date women like her. A woman that is a lawyer, for instance, is going to know that a man dressed in over sized hip hop style clothes probably doesn’t date women like her. An extreme example, I know, but it demonstrates the point.

A woman will be asking herself if you are the kind of man that dates women like her, and you can demonstrate either that you are, or that you aren’t, by those style choices.

Style is Communicated to You on DVD

If you want to communicate with women on their level, and you want to better understand how to communicate the type of man you are with style, get Dress For Success.

It is Lance Mason’s Study at home DVD program that goes in depth into all of the aspects of style that I have touched on this week.

It comes with a money back guarantee, you have nothing to lose by trying it out. If it doesn’t work out, no problem, you lose nothing. If it does work, and you learn something useful that helps you get a great woman.

Click here to get Dress For Success at the Pickup 101 Website.

Now go meet a woman this nice Labor Day weekend. Talk to you on Tuesday.

Order This Drink At The Bar To Make Yourself 37.9% More Intriguing To Women

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Time for some Friday fun. This post should to be taken with a grain of salt. And a slice of lime.

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I am about to reveal to you the secret drink to order that makes you at least 25% sexier and 32% more intriguing to women.

But before I do, I want to talk to you about why your choice of drink is so important.

That’s right, style week is moving to your style of drink.

The drink that you drink communicates quite a bit about you, and the type of night you are having. Forget your clothes, your shoes, your hair style, demeanor, and body language. The true mark of who a man is can be found in his glass.

You probably have a natural sense that this is true. When you see a man at a bar drinking a glass of wine, you can probably put together quite an impression of who he is and the type of night he is having. He’s a doosh bag. Unless he is at a wine bar. Then he’s just pretentious. Unless he’s there with a chick. Then he’s a pretentious doosh bag.

Just kidding. I don’t hate you if you like wine.

In the same vein, you can draw conclusions in your mind about the man with a bottle of Budweiser, or the guy with the Jagermeister shots (shudder).

Your drink can communicate how social you are, how drunk you are, how tasteful you are, how fancy you are, and how much of a man you are.

So this is like really really really important.

Are you ready to know what drink to order?

Your life will never be the same after this.

Here it is. This is the best drink to order at any bar ever:

Manhattan. On the rocks.

Do not order it up (in a martini glass, as it is served by default). The martini glass screams “LOOK AT ME, I CRAVE ATTENTION!” Order it on the rocks, like a man.

When a woman asks what you are drinking, and you reply Manhattan, she will know that it is a fancy drink, and she will know that it has whisky in it, because of the dark color.

Nothing says man to a woman like whisky.

Also, many people who don’t like whisky don’t like Manhattans, since bourbon (or rye) is the primary ingredient. She will think you are a real man because you can tolerate the strong, delicious, sweet, sweet flavor of Bourbon, yet know that you have class, because you aren’t drinking shot after shot of whisky.

Man. A man with taste. A man that likes fine things. A man with taste that likes fine things but doesn’t have to show off.

Be a man. Drink a Manhattan.

How To Dress On A Date

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The trick to dressing well on a date is to combine good style and making it look like you didn’t over think it.

I would be pleased to over think it for you, so that you don’t have to.

I think it goes without saying that it is best to wear clothes that flatter you and fit well. Show off your good assets.

Make sure you comb your hair too. My last significant girlfriend told me that she thought I had nice hair while we were on our first date.

Oh, and while we are on the subject, make sure you take some breath mints.

…Alright, back on track.

Another thing to make sure of is that your clothes are comfortable. This serves two purposes. First, you will be comfortable doing whatever it is you end up doing. Second, when your clothes are more comfortable, it helps you feel more comfortable being with this new woman.

The last thing that should guide your decision of what to wear should be that you feel like you look good wearing whatever it is you wear. It doesn’t have to be flashy or exciting, but you should feel like you look good in the clothes you decide to wear on a date. Your dates will go better when you feel sexy and attractive.

Here are some more guidelines that you may consider following beyond these basic rules.

Show different sides of your personality.

If I meet a woman out at a bar, and I am dressed casually, or dressed looking like a rocker in my leather jacket, I often plan the first date for some evening after work, when I will be dressed in a suit and tie. I like to show, with my clothing and style, different aspects of my personality.

This is similar to what I wrote yesterday about wearing accessories that are out of place with your overall look.

There is more to who I am than one particular stereotype, and I want to convey that with the clothes I choose to wear. At this time, I am working to convey breadth of character (depth comes later).

Not many people are always the same person all the time. We vary, sometimes we are fancy, sometimes casual, sometimes upbeat, sometimes mellow, sometimes professional, sometimes sporty, and sometimes slackers.

You can communicate this by wearing a different style of clothing on your date than you did when you met her.

Dress with a goal in mind.

On most first dates, I have a very specific goal in mind. I want to get to know the woman well, and to let her get to know me well. I want to build a connection quickly. I want us to feel like we know each other better after 1 date than she did the last guy after 10 dates.

With this in mind, I often tone down how I dress. I don’t dress as fancy or as flashy as when I met her. I want to communicate that this time together will not entirely be about flash and fun, but about substance.

By toning down my dress, I mean less accessories, less hip, fashionable clothing, less elaborate shoes (not less *nice* shoes though). Essentially, I shift away from dressing like one of the extremes of any stereotype.

Of course, this tactic fits into my overall goal of building a strong connection and rapport on that date. If you have other goals in mind, you can probably think about how you can dress to help communicate those goals.

Style is Communication

You may have noticed that pretty much everything I have written about style this week comes from the perspective of how to communicate to other people with your style.

Clothing and style is a *big* part of the non-verbal communication that we put out in to the world for everyone else to see and understand. No matter what we wear and how we wear it, we are communicating to women something about ourselves.

For a complete dose of learning about the language of style, get Dress For Success. It is a set of DVDs that goes in depth into style, and how it communicates with women.

Dress For Success costs less than a nice pair of jeans and shoes, and you will never buy the wrong jeans or wrong shoes again after watching this program.

Lance, who put this program together, offers a money back guarantee on the DVD program. You’ve got 6 weeks to try it out, and if it isn’t the right thing for you, you can return it for a refund. You’ve got nothing to lose. Except maybe your old crappy clothes.

Click here to go to the PickUp 101 website and get Dress For Success.

Do Your Style Well (Or The Metal Gods Will Smite You)

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I wrote this a while ago, while I was waiting to meet some of my friends in the parking lot of Shoreline Amphitheater. We met up before the show for some tailgate action before we went in to see Slayer and Cannibal Corpse.

I admit, I’m a metal head.

It kinda fits though, since I am talking about style this week. I got to pull this little bit of writing out of my vault.

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I’m down in Mountain View waiting for my friends to get to Mayhem Festival. We’re gonna grill up some food and throw back a few beers before going in to the Shoreline Amphitheater to see Slayer and a bunch of other bands.

I am a metal head, and Slayer is one of the kings of metal.

So I’m sitting here in this parking lot, and there are metal heads of all types hanging out, throwing down beers, and gearing up for the show.

Of course, what I start thinking about is style. Metal heads all have a particular look going for them, and the folks at this show range from convincingly hardcore to metal geek. Some of these guys out here are probably gonna have a style that women find attractive, and some of them, well, won’t. The type of look that you decide to go for is gonna influence what types of women find you attractive, but pretty much any look will be attractive to a good amount of women.

Assuming you do it well.

Metal heads can definitely be sexy, and if that’s what you are, then there is no reason not to rock your Cannibal Corpse t-shirt and get some big scary tattoos. The trick is to make sure that you pull off the look well, and look well put together, even if the look you are going for is disheveled rocker.

Find clothes that flatter you, and follow good guidelines for fit and matching. A black Napalm Death t-shirt probably isn’t gonna look too good with weird orange pants from Hot Topic. It will also look out of place if you’re wearing $150 True Religion Jeans and nice Kenneth Cole loafers (ask me how I know this).

The best rule to follow when you are figuring out what to wear, and what kind of look to put together is to be deliberate.

I see a lot of men in this parking lot wearing clothes that look like they got them as hand-me-downs, or they bought the clothes because it was what was easy to find and available from Target or JC Penney.

No thought seemed to go into their decision of what to wear, other than to make sure they wore their favorite metal band t-shirts, and then grabbed their crappy jeans, poor fitting jeans and the tennis shoes in their closet.

On the other hand, there are some guys here who have the metal look down. They’ve got jeans and t-shirts that fit well, they’ve got accessories that work with everything else, and it displays a certain attitude. Their haircuts and grooming, while not necessarily nice and neat, are deliberate, and well kept.

This approach to style – being deliberate about your clothing choices – works for any look. If you are an artist, jock, business man, nerd, or (heaven help us) hippy or hipster, you have a choice. You can either be sloppy about the look, or be deliberate about it.

If you are deliberate about your look, chances are that you will get noticed by women much more than if you are completely sloppy about it, and put no thought into your clothing choices.

Now, for some visual examples.

metal-dorks

These kids are the quintessential metal dorks. Yes, I am going a bit overboard to make my point, but they make the point so well. These guys have poor grooming, their clothes fit poorly, and nothing really matches.

These poor guys have had this picture really make the rounds on the internet. Their music is awesome though.

Zakk-Wylde

Now let’s take a look at Zakk Wylde, guitarist for Ozzy Osbourne and Black Label Society.

He’s not a traditional hot guy, or handsome, but he pulls off this metal look very well. Even though he has long hair that isn’t exactly a “neat” look, it looks taken care of.

His clothes match and fit well, and they all go together for the over all look that he gives off. When I see this look, it looks deliberate, and like he makes sure to make sure that he pulls off this look well.

Which one of these guys do you think is more likely to get eyed up by some hotty?

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I used the examples of the metal look in this post because, well, I was about to see Slayer and Cannibal Corpse when I wrote this. Metal was on my mind.

The idea that the way to make this style work, by being deliberate about how you put the look together, applies to any look. I don’t always dress up as a metal head. I wear a suit to work during the week, and I can get dressed pretty nice when I go out.

I was also a bit of a skater kid, and a punk rock kid, and that influences my look from time to time.

No matter what look you put together for yourself, put some thought into it, make sure it looks good, make sure your clothes fit well, and make sure you are creating the right attitude with your look.

Style Is Your First Impression

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Your clothes are talking about you, whether you like it or not.

There is a saying in some psychology circles that you and I are always communicating. You can’t not communicate. If you are talking, you are communicating something,a nd if you are not talking, you are also communicating, just not verbally.

Our clothing always communicates something about us. The way I dress can communicate how I feel about myself, how much time I spent gettign ready, how important looking good is, and how I want to interact with people.

And that’s just for starters.

Clothing is one of the first things we notice about a person, and you and I, very quickly, create an idea of what kind of person someone is, just by the way they dress.

This happens whether we want it to or not, it is one of the realities of the world.

This week I’ll be writing about fashion, style, and how knowing about fahion can help you convey your personality to women. Today, I want you to think about the impression you make with your clothing.

Aspects of fashion that go into this overall impression that fashion gives are:

  • What clothes you decide to wear
  • How well your clothes fit
  • What style you are going for, and how well you are actually pulling it off
  • How well your style follows the rules of style
  • When those rules are broken, is it intentional?
  • How fancy, or how casual, you are dressed

And on and on and on. For today, I’d just like you to think about what kind of impression you think your clothing makes. What does the fashion that you wear say about you. Are you fun? Serious? Casual? Rich? Poor?

Also, think about the impression that you would like to make. What do you want people to think about you when they see you. They are going to think something, so it might as well be whatever you would like them to think.

You cannot hide from fashion, because you are always conveying something with your clothing, even when you aren’t trying to convey anything (because that itself conveys something).

As you walk down the street today, take some time to notice how people dress, and what you can determine about who that person is from that. You may surprise yourself that you find yourself creating very vivid pictures in your mind about who someone is, just from how they dress (and of course, some other things like body language and facial expressions).

After you have spent the day people watching, stand in front of your mirror, and think about the picture you create in your head about a person dressed like you are. This is a fun exercise, and you may be surprised by what you see.

Also, if you have any questions about style, fashion, and how this can work for you or against you in the dating scene, leave a comment to this post and ask it. I will do my best to answer your questions in the posts that will be coming out this week.

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When you are ready to super charge your fashion, and learn to dress so that women think you are the best dressed guy they’ve seen all day, get Lance Mason’s Dress For Success home study program.

Lance is the founder of PickUp 101, a company dedicated to teaching men how to meet and date more women by bringing out their naturally attractive self. I credit Lance with teaching me more than anyone else about success with women, and now I work with him and coach for PickUp 101.

I watched this program myself, and was surprised how this DVD set goes beyond merely discussing what to wear. This program goes in depth into what exactly your fashion communicates about you. When you understand how fashion communicates with women, you can use this to help you meet and date hotter women, and be the best dressed guy in town.

The 3 DVD set is jam packed with style and fashion tips. Even more than fashion, you will learn the language of fashion that most men have little or no clue is being spoken.

For about the price of a nice dinner for two (including a decent bottle of wine), you get the 3 DVD set, a workbook to go with the DVD programming, and a fancy storage container for the whole set.

Click here to get Dress For Success at the Pickup 101 Website

Every one of Lance’s programs come with a money back guarantee, you literally have nothing to lose by trying out this program. If the program doesn’t work out, you can send it back within 6 weeks for a complete refund.

Check it out here:

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Thoughts On Peacocking

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Peacocks strut their stuff, and attract mates with their flashy, showy plumage.

Men can do the same thing. There are some schools of thought that say you should wear loud outrageous clothing and/or accessories when you go out to meet women, that it shows confidence and is attractive.

Here’s a couple things to keep in mind about this:

In theory, peacocking gear gives the girl a reason to open you. If you are wearing a funky this-or-that and a girl wants to talk to you, she can comment on it and safely open you. That’s one approach to this. In this case, find something that works for you. I wear a leather jacket with metal studs on the lapel, girls open me by commenting on it or touching it a lot. Same thing when I used to wear a steel chain as a necklace with a padlock (R.I.P. Sid Vicious). If this is the angle you are going for, find somethign that fits you, and who you are. I can wear that shit because I was a punk rock muthufucka back in the day.

The other thing to keep in mind, peacocking is mean to show confidence by wearing loud, flashy clothing. The wilder and louder, the more confidence and social savvy you have to have. One time I saw a guy wearing big old aviator shades and a loud tie in a club, and he was just resting against the wall, trying to look hardcore. In reality, he looked like someone that was trying to dress up for the night, but couldn’t really pull it off. When you wear loud, flashy clothing, people will expect you to be just as loud and social of a guy. If you’re not, it’s incongruent, and end up looking like a tool. This is just another thing to keep in mind. Your peacocking has to match your social gregariousness.

Shoes Make The Man

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In my interview with The Pickup Podcast guys, they asked for a fashion tip, and I mentioned shoes. I got a comment on my last post asking for more info. So here it is. I can go on and on about why shoes are important, but I just want to get to the nitty gritty right away.

So what shoes do I buy? I like Kenneth Coles. I own 3 pairs. 2 are basic dress shoes in black and brown. Another is a more stylish brown loafer. Kenneth Cole makes quality shoes that are comfortable and stylish. They are a good staple.

I have a couple other pairs of nicer shoes that are cool or funky in some way.

For more casual shoes, I like Pumas. I have a few pairs of things that are more stylish, like a pair of Diesels and a pair of HipOppotamus (similar to Diesel).

Remember to take care of your shoes. Keep them polished, and make them last.

A few rules I follow when picking out shoes:

1) Brown shoes are always more stylish than black shoes.

2) Don’t skimp on shoes. $175 isn’t too much to spend for a high quality shoe that is comfortable and stylish. Plus, you’ll feel great walking around in a great pair of shoes.

3) Get a selection. Don’t buy three pairs of black shoes. Get one pair of black, a pair of brown, and a pair of a lighter color (cream, tan, etc). This is much more versatile.

4) Make sure they are comfortable. If a shoe isn’t immediately comfortable when you put your foot in, don’t buy it. I don’t care if they are the perfect shoes that were sent down on a cloud from heaven. I’ve learned this lesson the hard (and painful) way. Also, if two shoes seem really similar, but one is a bit more expensive but more comfortable, spend the extra for the comfortable ones. Your feet will thank you.

…and, since summer is coming,

5) Don’t ever buy sandals. Flip-flop sandals are OK, but those Teva style sandals have to go.

 

If you really want to get your style in gear, check out PickUp 101’s guide to style, Dress to Impress. It is a 3 DVD set that goes into detail about fashion and style and how to make it work for you. The DVD set goes into detail about how to use style to help give a great impression to women. It also includes real world fashion make overs of men that attended the filming of the set. Click here to check it out now.