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Style Is Your First Impression

Your clothes are talking about you, whether you like it or not.

There is a saying in some psychology circles that you and I are always communicating. You can’t not communicate. If you are talking, you are communicating something,a nd if you are not talking, you are also communicating, just not verbally.

Our clothing always communicates something about us. The way I dress can communicate how I feel about myself, how much time I spent gettign ready, how important looking good is, and how I want to interact with people.

And that’s just for starters.

Clothing is one of the first things we notice about a person, and you and I, very quickly, create an idea of what kind of person someone is, just by the way they dress.

This happens whether we want it to or not, it is one of the realities of the world.

This week I’ll be writing about fashion, style, and how knowing about fahion can help you convey your personality to women. Today, I want you to think about the impression you make with your clothing.

Aspects of fashion that go into this overall impression that fashion gives are:

  • What clothes you decide to wear
  • How well your clothes fit
  • What style you are going for, and how well you are actually pulling it off
  • How well your style follows the rules of style
  • When those rules are broken, is it intentional?
  • How fancy, or how casual, you are dressed

And on and on and on. For today, I’d just like you to think about what kind of impression you think your clothing makes. What does the fashion that you wear say about you. Are you fun? Serious? Casual? Rich? Poor?

Also, think about the impression that you would like to make. What do you want people to think about you when they see you. They are going to think something, so it might as well be whatever you would like them to think.

You cannot hide from fashion, because you are always conveying something with your clothing, even when you aren’t trying to convey anything (because that itself conveys something).

As you walk down the street today, take some time to notice how people dress, and what you can determine about who that person is from that. You may surprise yourself that you find yourself creating very vivid pictures in your mind about who someone is, just from how they dress (and of course, some other things like body language and facial expressions).

After you have spent the day people watching, stand in front of your mirror, and think about the picture you create in your head about a person dressed like you are. This is a fun exercise, and you may be surprised by what you see.

Also, if you have any questions about style, fashion, and how this can work for you or against you in the dating scene, leave a comment to this post and ask it. I will do my best to answer your questions in the posts that will be coming out this week.

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When you are ready to super charge your fashion, and learn to dress so that women think you are the best dressed guy they’ve seen all day, get Lance Mason’s Dress For Success home study program.

Lance is the founder of PickUp 101, a company dedicated to teaching men how to meet and date more women by bringing out their naturally attractive self. I credit Lance with teaching me more than anyone else about success with women, and now I work with him and coach for PickUp 101.

I watched this program myself, and was surprised how this DVD set goes beyond merely discussing what to wear. This program goes in depth into what exactly your fashion communicates about you. When you understand how fashion communicates with women, you can use this to help you meet and date hotter women, and be the best dressed guy in town.

The 3 DVD set is jam packed with style and fashion tips. Even more than fashion, you will learn the language of fashion that most men have little or no clue is being spoken.

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How Do You Thinslice?

A conversation came up amongst some folks online about spiky hair. I was of the view that spiky hair is only appropriate if you are punk rock and/or Japanese. I am not Japanese, and my punk rock days are largely a thing of the past, so spiky hair is not for me.

My friend Whim replied to this conversation with the following:

Spiky hair is awesome. Especially if you’re Asian.

I’m yet to find a better thinslice that works for me.

Gotta love it when girls at McCarran come up to you screaming “heeeeyy!!!! We know you!!!!”

This thinslice works for him.

When I read this, a little lightbulb went off in my head. I thought this was a pretty brilliant idea, applying thinslicing to yourself.

For those of you that don’t know, thinslicing is an idea in Malcolm Gladwell’s book Blink. In this book, Malcolm Gladwell discussed how we make split second decisions. We determine a lot about people, things, and situations within the time of a blink of the eye.

Applying this to ourselves, people make split second decisions about us based on how we look, what we are doing, and how we present ourselves. It incorporates everything about us: our clothes, our facial expression, attitude, how we move, and even our hair. This is even simpler than a first impression, it is more like a micro-impression. It is the impression we get before the first impression.

Men thin slice all the time. She’s hot. She looks mean. She’s an ice queen. She looks nice. Without even talking to her, we have an idea in our mind of all sorts of things about her.

Take a minute to apply thinslicing to yourself. How do you thinslice? What do people think about you based on how you are dressed? How you stand? How you talk? Your facial expressions? People are always determining something about you based on these.

Further, what can you do that will lead to a particularly good thinslice? Whim is using something very obvious about him, his hair, to get a particular association and reaction from women. What kind of things do you want women to immediately think about you, and what can you do to create that? It’s good food for thought. Make sure you are thinsliced well.

If you want to read more about thinslicing and how it works, I recommend Malcolm Gladwell’s book. I read through it in a breeze, and really enjoyed it. It is a quick read, yet packed with really interesting information.

Click here to look at Blink on Amazon.com

Also, you can find Whim’s website at adventuresofwhim.com. He is a great guy, and very successful with the ladies. Good stuff there.