Accessories are sexy. Done.
OK. I’ll elaborate.
Back In The Day
Way back in the old days, like 4 or 5 years ago, the general theory amongst all of those “pickup artist” guys was that by accessorizing (or “peacocking” as they called it to seem less gay), you gave women an easy way to start a conversation with you.
When a man is wearing a purple fuzzy hat, a woman can come up to him and comment on the hat without having to take the lead and approach a man to start the conversation. It was a safe way for women to start things without having to actually put on the pants and approach the guy. It’s safe to talk to the guy in the funny hat after all. Kinda.
So anyway, this works.
I used to wear a steel chain with a padlock on it. You know, like Sid Vicious. Whenever I wore that chain, a woman would comment on it. It was like a woman magnet.
[I also had this girl that would bite on it when we were, you know, intimate. Good god that was hot. Holy shit.]
Anyway, I pretty much always agree with the notion that men should be the ones to approach, and women shouldn’t have to approach a man and get things started.
These kind of accessories give a woman a way to get a man’s attention, and start a conversation, without technically having to approach.
It is up to you, as the man, to keep things going after this though.
Put on some sexy
Accessories, for better or worse, are sexy.
The only thing I can think of that might explain this is that accessories don’t serve a functional purpose, so when we wear accessories, we ornament out bodies. The only reason to ornament something is to bring attention to it, so when we ornament our bodies with accessories, we bring attention to our body. There’s always something sexy about bringing attention to bodies.
I just made all that up, so don’t quote me on that. It sounds pretty right on to me though.
Regardless of the reason, accessories are sexy, and they display some sexuality.
For this reason, I think that accessories are a good thing to add to your outfit. Get a cool necklace, rings, belts, buckles, earrings, bracelets, piercings, tattoos, etc.
Turn Her Upside Down
What I really like to do with accessories is to throw something in to the mix that doesn’t make sense.
If I am dressing pretty nicely in designer jeans, a button shirt and nice blazer, I might wear a leather bracelet with metal studs on it. It can’t really be seen form a distance, but may show through from time to time when I am talking to someone. The metal studs don’t fit with the rest of the outfit, and when a woman sees them, it can disrupt the impression she has of me.
I remember one time I was on a coffee break from work at Peet’s Coffee. I pulled out my shiny silver wallet, and the girl working at the counter said that she did not expect that wallet to come out of those slacks. I was wearing a nice fitted suit and tie at the time, so yeah. It didn’t fit with the rest of my look. In that moment I communicated some aspect of my personality that didn’t fit with the rest of my look.
What I attempt to do when I accessorize in this way is to make sure that I am countering whatever impression the rest of my outfit might be giving. I had a buddy who was a big guy, who would go out with a surfer/rocker look. He would wear a necklace with a turtle on it specifically to soften his look, and to subvert the idea of being a hardcore surfer guy.
I have had women ask about these types of accessories when they notice them on me, because they want to try to find out how this fits in to who I am. This is a good thing. These accessories convey that I am a more complicated person than I may seem.
We all simplify people in our mind, categorize them and decide what we think of them. I want to take whatever impression and categorization a woman has made of me and turn it on its head.
It makes me more interesting
Figure Out What Works Best For You
What is gonna look best on you?
The best way to figure this out is to try stuff. I used to accessorize far more than I do now. I have worn accessories that I am ashamed to admit to. Some pretty embarrassing stuff. I learned quite a bit about my personal sense of style by experimenting a bit.
If you are haven’t worked accessories into your style much in the past, just go out and buy a couple things, maybe a ring, necklace, and bracelet, and wear them. See how you feel, and see if they work for you.
It may take a few trials to find the right look for you. That’s good if it does.
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